Depression can ruin lives if it's left untreated. I know that because it was close to ruining mine.

Posted by / Wednesday 08 August 2018 / Fundraising
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When I was 17 years old I started to feel the grasp of depression.

It all started when my friend died on a night out after I decided to walk home whilst we were pretty drunk. I blamed myself for what happened that night. It didn't take long before I was suffocated with guilt. I felt I had nowhere to turn and no idea what was happening to me. Naively, I assumed that time would heal how I felt and I would be back to normality in a few months’ time. But that never happened.

Instead, everything got worse. Guilt turned into self-loathing, resentment, social isolation and as a result, a deepening depression. It took seven years before I finally asked for help. Seven long years of suffering in silence. My experience with depression is why I want to raise money for Action for Children

Action for Children - in partnership with Royal Mail - have something called the Blues Programme.

It's essentially "an internationally acclaimed preventative course aimed for people aged 15-18 years-old who are suffering from, or who are at risk of developing a mental health disorder.

I want to stop this happening for other young people

I don't want what happened to me to happen to someone else. Had something like the Blues Programme been around when I was 17 then things could've worked out differently. I wouldn't have waited until I hit rock bottom before my wife made me seek help. I could've dealt with the problem right as it was arising and not let it affect my life as much as it did. And I don't want others to make the same mistakes that I did.

I still have some of the lasting effects that depression often leaves, but I still feel that I got lucky. Others aren't so fortunate. Depression can ruin lives if it's left untreated. I know it was close to ruining mine. What the Blues Programme does is help young people before things deteriorate. It's about stopping these life changing illnesses from turning into something that can ruin someone's life. Something like that means a lot to me.

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What I'm Doing to Raise Money

To raise money for Action for Children I'll be doing the Wye Valley Challenge. It's a 100km walk from Chepstow to Hereford. It can be done over the course of two days, or, like I'm going to do, all in one go.

Life doesn't give you any warning before an immense amount of struggle finds you. It just happens. That's part of my thinking behind this challenge. All of a sudden I'll find myself with a daunting, seemingly never ending task on my hands with no other option than to put one foot in front of the other. I hope it's a metaphor that will translate into my everyday life. If I ever find myself once again in a place of struggle, I can look back to this challenge and know I can cope. I just have to keep going.


What I manage to raise for Action for Children is going to be a big part of my motivation to get through this challenge. Knowing that I might be able to help make a small difference will help me reach the end of this challenge.

If you want to help Action for Children and the Blues Programme, then please donate via my SponsorMe page.

Royal Mail will match any donations up to £2500, so you'll be essentially doubling whatever you give.

If you want to follow me on this challenge, then I'll be covering it via my parenting blog, Isablog.

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